writing about abortion.

i took on what might call a difficult task. i choose to write about a subject that many people don't want to touch with a ten foot pole: abortion.

this does not make me a stronger person or anything like that, it just makes me more determined. and more passionate. or simply more ambitious.

the largest obstacle to this subject matter is the goal to get a certain message across without being preachy. of course anyone who knew what i was writing about gave me the look, "do you really know what you're getting into?". and the answer is still, "yes". but as it comes down to it, the actual biggest obstacle is that people are telling me that a woman can't make this decision without doubting herself. now i have never had an abortion. i can't say with 100% certainty how i would feel, what i would think, when i had to make this decision. however many of the women that i am surrounded by feel the same as me. they feel certain that the decision they would make would be to get an abortion, and that they would not regret it. keep in mind this is not all the women i know, but enough that i don't feel alone in my own conclusions.

now of course one could easily say that i am young and i don't know what the hell i'm talking about. but my response would probably be, i am a smart woman and i know myself. and of course one of the toughest things about this subject is that it is so personal, every person can feel very differently.

but i ask you, why is it so completely objectionable that a young woman be certain about her decision? why are the complainers suggesting, "i think she should doubt herself"? i'm sick of women doubting themselves. i don't care if it makes the character feel more "real". or more "dynamic". i am sick of the idea that this has to be such an emotional decision.

why can't it be, "i don't have time, cash, motivation or desire to have a child, so i'm not going to have one"? just because i had sex does not mean i should be a mother.